I've crossed over the obesity line more than a few times in my life. At my heaviest, just before my wedding, I was almost 280, though no one believed it. Even as a child I was overweight - while I was very physically active when I was younger, riding my bike around the neighborhood for hours a day and playing pickup basketball and football games with the kids, I gradually became more sedentary. Being an overweight Jewish nerd with a funny last name earned me loads of friends in public middle school. Things may have changed for me socially when they sent me to a private high school, but my weight remained high.
It's not that I wasn't "fit" - I was one of the strongest kids in my school, threw shot put, even ran relays on the track team during our meets a couple times. During the weekends, I would walk several miles. I just loved food and couldn't loose weight. Things didn't improve in college, either. I managed to lose 15 pounds in my first semester, but that was because 1) I had an insane schedule 2) I was broke and therefore 3) subsisted on ~1000 calories a day, mainly in the form of Naked bars. My older brother, former fat kid turned personal trainer, was simultaneously concerned and angered with how I was treating my body. We arranged to start training every morning at the gym, getting there before they even opened. This lasted about 8 months until my brother moved away and I no longer had an exercise partner. Even during that time, the needle barely budged. For a full summer, I went on an archaeological dig in Israel. Manual labor from sun-up till noon carrying loads up and down the hillside meant that I ended that summer tanned and in good shape, but it didn't last.
By the time I finished college, I was the heaviest I had ever been. From the moment I got engaged, my whole family started pressuring my fiance (now wife) about my need to lose weight, and it put an enormous and ongoing strain on our new marriage. During my little sister's wedding, I had a heart scare that turned out to be nothing - nerve pain and reflux - but we spent hours in the emergency room at the local hospital in the same ward where my mother-in-law went after her heart attack. Needless to say, this spurred me harder than merely wanting to be "in shape." I started dieting. My wife had gotten a job working as a med-tech at a doctor's office that specialized in weight loss, so I started seeing him.
Dieting, B12 shots, and early morning exercise regimens; in two years I had dropped over 80 pounds. By my older brother's wedding, I was in as good shape as my fitness therapist and Israeli soldier siblings. I looked fantastic, my knees had stopped hurting, and I felt like I could do anything.
And then my wife started school full time.
As an interior designer and architect, her schooling was (and is) monstrous and difficult. She spent her days and nights working on projects, models, boards, and presentations, and I did everything I could to help her. This meant doing all the cooking and cleaning, working with her on essays, typing up study notes, helping build models, and driving her to and from school because she was often too exhausted to safely drive on her own. My routine started slipping. The stress of working a full time job, being a homemaker, and basically going back to school by proxy meant that something had to give, and I couldn't wake up early in the mornings to exercise on only three hours of sleep. Slowly, gradually, my weight crept back up.
It's not for lack of trying.
I kept my caloric intake down, even though I couldn't stick to a prescribed diet anymore. I did what I could to keep physically active at every opportunity without taking up extra time in the day. Hell, I've even taken to doing crunches in the car at stoplights - it embarrasses my wife, amuses strangers, and I actually enjoy it. But even though I'm eating half of my supposed "basal metabolic rate" and less than most people I know, nothing I do seems to be helping. To this day, in fact, the worst confrontations my wife and I have are about weight loss and exercise.
But I'm healthy. I have decent endurance and strength, normal blood pressure, and good figures for cholesterol and blood sugar.
Oddly, the thing driving me batty is that my body seems so much more "efficient" than most peoples - I thrive on less sleep and food than most people I know. That means that eating a normal amount of food makes me gain weight and even following a decent diet plan fails if there's the slightest deviation.
So here I am, on the other side of the BMI Obesity line, struggling to get back.
Why am I writing this?
I've got nothing to sell, no glowing success story, and no recruitment video.
If you're reading this, it's statistically likely that you're obese or at least significantly overweight. Like me, you feel frustrated about The Struggle and more than a little bitter at the world that tells you it's "your fault" that you don't fit into their body type ideals.
You've cried and cursed, screamed and sobbed at your scale, your mirror, your closet. It hurts. Deeply.
Many of you probably have friends or family pushing, bugging, or begging you to lose weight. It doesn't help. Resentment builds. You're feeling unloved by your partner or parents, who just don't seem to get how difficult it is for you.
So you start looking for answers.
The diet industry in America is estimated in the TENS of BILLIONS of dollars. Hardly a day goes by without some miracle drug or herbal supplement being touted on TV. If they all worked, then why are the numbers climbing?
I've always been an information junkie. As the son of doctors and the brother of a fitness therapist, I've always looked at these systems with a skeptic eye, even when my relatives haven't. Every time I see something new, I start researching, poking, and prodding to see where the seams are - what's real and what isn't. It's always bothered me that I can't find an easy, dependable source for reviewing these supposed weight loss and fitness miracles - every fad has its series of fake sites touting the power of Koala Feces for Your Metabolism!
Let's change that - let's challenge the hype.
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